Who is the we you are referring to?
If the Vbn, in your example, was the output of a transformer, I would 'arbitrarily' choose the physical relationship between the primary and secondary voltages as my reference. This way I would make sure I was consistent for both single phase and poly-phase systems. For example, a single winding primary with a single winding secondary phi = 0, and PI would simply indicate an inversion not an opposition.
If the Vbn, in your example, is not the output of a single phase transformer, it involves an area of discussion in which I have choose not to enter in regards to this thread.