Electrically speaking, you merely connect to two of the lines and the neutral. Keep in mind, though, that you'll have 120v line-to-neutral and 208v line-to-line, so make sure that any 240v loads will work on 208v.
Now seeing your second post, stating only 120v loads, I agree that a 3-phase panel would be better, requiring a smaller-sized feeder for the same Kva capacity, except with one more conductor, of course.
As long as you're outdoors (the entire feeder, that is), you don't have to place the disconnect at any particular point. If I'm not mistaken, the main disconnect can be the one in the roof-top panel.
Uh, what's a DP? :-?