When I turn off the 2 breakers sharing the hot neutral the neutral = 0v. I disconnected the 3 way switches then turned the 2 breakers on. Neutral once again is hot.
That doesn't sound like the scenario you first mentioned.
You need to get real specific on what you're doing. And you need to answer the questions people ask you.
What do you mean that you disconnected the 3-way switches? Did you just take the common and travelers off the switch, or did you unhook all the neutrals and grounds, too?
Twice, you've been asked what this 2-pole circuit is powering
We're guessing that it's lighting, but if you want help you're going to have to help us get a better handle on the scenario.
I mentioned the possibility that you have a multi gang box with a 3-way switch in it, with neutrals connected wrong. And now you mention 3-way switches
Whether you've got neutrals from 2 circuits swapped, which is my hunch, or if you have neutrals from 2 circuits all hooked together (what ActionDave proposed)......
If you want help, you need to follow instructions you're being given, and then report back EXACTLY what you did and the result of it.