Re: parallel grounding and light dimming
When anyone anywhere in any home or any other type of facility starts a large motor, the lights are going to dim. No exceptions. The dimming might be so slight that your eye cannot detect the difference, but it happens. It might happen so fast that a voltage meter will not detect it, but it happens. It happens because we do not use superconducting materials in household, commercial, or industrial wiring.
The motor draws a large starting current, which causes a lowering of the voltage of the power source (i.e., because of impedance internal to the source). During that short interval, every load in the facility will have a lower voltage. The lighting load responds to that lower voltage by putting out less light.
The problem gets worse if the wires to the large motors (your washing machine, for example) are too small, or if the wires to the lights themselves are too small. It also gets worse if the internal impedance of the service transformer is too high. Loose connections could also be the cause. I worked on a problem in an apartment building in which all the lights would dim whenever the elevators moved. The tenants blamed the management, and the management blamed the utility.
Do you recall any of the wiring details (choice of wire size and type, length of wiring runs)?