Re: Separating Neutral and Ground at subpanel
I don't have a copy of that book, so I am not certain how closely the situation you describe matches the figure you cited. Part of my uncertainty relates to your use of the term "subpanel." You mention a meter, then you mention a panel. Is this the "main service panel"?
As Don said, you connect neutral to ground at the first disconnecting means, and not again thereafter. That is why you may read that you do not connect N-G at a "subpanel." That phrase is generally understood to mean a panel downstream of the main service panel.
You need to understand that there are two separate phrases that each use the word "grounding." One is the "Grounding Electrode Conductor." That goes from the point at which the N-G bond takes place, and goes to the ground rod. The other is the "Equipment Grounding Conductor." That goes from the external metal parts of any equipment, and goes back to the Ground Bar in the panel that feeds the equipment.
So help me understand your situation. Is the service disconnecting means outside the house, at the meter, with the N-G bond taking place outside the house, and the GEC running from that point to the ground rod? If so, then from that point into the house there needs to be two hot conductors, one neutral, and one EGC. Once these reach the panel inside the house, connections to the neutral bus must be kept separate from connections to the ground bus.
Does this answer your question?