The way I was shown and what makes the most sense to me to do load calcs in instances like this, is make a small spreadsheet.
4 columns, one for each phase plus the neutral too.
Then for your rows, you write down your loads. I prefer to show amps on my spreadsheets, but KW's work too. Of course 3 phase loads would show a load across all 3 phases. Single phase across two phases. Pretty straightforward. 25% for largest motor. 125% for continuous loads, lighting, etc.
Add the columns up when you're done and see where your at.
We also use a Fluke logger, it's a little more real world.