Well like my grandfather used to say, "there are a lot of people that should just be shot, the thing is you need to make sure that you're on the commitee that decides who does and who doesn't.":happyyes:
and failing that, try to avoid standing next to the obvious targets,
which is where this thread seems to go....
one of my litmus tests is what i said earlier... has the person made
DIRECT restitution to the people they have harmed, to the best of
their ability?
behind almost all prison records and other public decrees of shortcomings,
great and small, is a simple fact. the actions, and the consequences
resulting from them, are driven by an enormous amount of selfishness
and self centeredness, doing whatever one wishes at the expense of
those surrounding the situation.
the one wholly true thing about the past, is that it is not now.
however, what is going on now, oftentimes, is a person who is doing
things operating from the same position of selfishness, creating the
same problems over and over, in the present moment.
what i can speak to is my own life. right after my 18th birthday, so i
was an adult, i had a felony arrest, my only arrest ever. i did what
i had to to make it right witht he AHJ, in this case the court system.
however, the selfishness and fear driven beliefs that led to that arrest,
persisted for 10 more years, and almost everyone in contact with me
during that time, paid a price for the interaction. some great, some
small... mostly depends on how close you stood to me at the time.
ultimately, that selfishness almost cost me my life... after some huge
experiences in my life, i was no longer AS selfish, and moved into the
realms of the rest of the human race, better than some, not as good
as others.
almost 30 years passes, and today the process continues. i'm honest
to a level that sometimes raises eyebrows. i've gone back and made
direct restitution to the people i've harmed, where possible.
and there is some damage that to this day remains irreparable from
that ten year period. professionally and personally. trying to right
wrongs from that period has been done, where possible.
you'd think that after thirty years, almost anything could be resolved,
right? not in my experience. and that's ok. i'm not everyone's cup of
tea, and don't have to be.
the point i'm trying to make is that i listen to what someone does, not
what someone says. and if the feet and the mouth match, after a while,
i may trust what the mouth says.
but not when they have only walked across the parking lot, so to speak.
it would not have been in your best interest to have anything to do with
me in the ten years following that felony arrest of mine.
today, it's a bit better. your tools, money, and business reputation will
not dissipate while i'm around.