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greenspark1:
Following is a way to do what you want and address the safety concerns:
Make the basic switching system using GE RR relay components. The control switches are low voltage (about 28 V) SPDT spring return to center. These can be mounted so that ON is always UP, and OFF is always DOWN at any switch. The ON contacts are all wired in parallel, therefore a logical inclusive OR circuit, and the same for the OFF contacts.
The RR relay is a bistable relay device with a set coil and reset coil. Momentary power applied to a coil determines the state of the relay output contacts.
Without anything else added this circuit can do what 3 or 4 way switches do with better logic as to the function of the control switches. Meaning up is always ON and down is always OFF.
The power output contacts of the RR relay directly control the light circuit.
The timer function will use the same type of on delay timer as I defined in my previous post. The input control signal comes from the output side of the RR relay. When the RR relay is set to ON, then an input signal is applied to the timer. An isolated contact is required at the timer output. This needs to be a normally open contact. This means the contact is open before application of the input control signal, remains open until the timer times out, and then closes.
The timer normally open output contact is wired in parallel with all of the OFF contacts to the RR relay. Thus, when timeout occurs the RR relay is turned off. This also removes the input signal to the timer and thus resets the timer and its output contact opens. Thus, any time a wall switch is operated in the ON direction the lights turn ON. Any time to OFF and the lights turn OFF. After the lights are turned on by a wall switch, this first setting to ON initiates the turn off timer. If no wall switch is used to turn the lights off, then the timer determines the off operation.
To address the safety concerns add one or more motion sensors. The motion sensors are all connected in series with normally closed contacts, a logical inclusive OR circuit, but using negative logic, and wired so that motion detection at any one sensor momentarily opens the control signal to the timer. This resets the timer to zero any time motion is detected. This may require a special motion sensor.
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