This thread has gotten convoluted and I am not sure what's what. I see there is a meter base with 2- 200 amp breakers in it. Where is the meter base. It appears it is away from the main building, is that correct? Or are you responsible for the runs from the power company pole to the meter base on the house?
If the second concept is what you have then you would need 2 sets of 250kcm. You have to use 80% based on more than 3 current carrying conductor's in the conduit. 250 kcm @90C = 230 amps x .8 = 184. Double for parallel and you have 368 amps. Since this is a residence you can use 83% of 400 amps = 332 amps so the 250kcm will work.