Just to clarify...
You don't need to bring a neutral from the 208 panel to the transformer.
If you are using a step up transformer, there is no XO terminal at all. There is an HO terminal on the 480 Wye Secondary. This you need to bond and can be your neutral on the 480 side - but if you don't need one you don't need to come out of the transformer with it. But you do need to bond and ground that for your SDS.
As you indicated, if you are using their step down transformer and back feeding it, you don't connect anything to the XO terminal. No neutral, no bond, leave it floating. It's a common mistake to want to land something on that lug.
Lastly, if the furnace and crane load are running at the same time, from your numbers that will be drawing 80 amps on your 208 primary. Which you indicate you are protecting with a 100A breaker. There are good reasons to locate the transformer near the 208 supply - like copper costs and VD. Like KWired said in his previous post, make sure to price out that option.