I agree that NEC oversteps its boundaries at times. I also don't like the AFCI's and some issues that go along with them.
A burning device is surely something that should be considered a safety issue, but the facts are that those connections are listed for the purpose. I have seen many screw terminals, wire nut type connections, and even set screw type lugs(large and small) that fail just as catastrophically, so should the NEC ban those as well? This is just one of those issues that is what it is, and if you don't like backstabbing you are certainly welcome to not use such connection types. Doesn't matter what the connection type is, if it develops some resistance for any reason, it is subject to fail due to heat in the connection.