I don't know what I can say that I haven't already. Whether AE is "fair" or not in their policies is beyond my control, although I happen to agree with them. Self consumption isn't worth the expense of the batteries if there isn't a TOU tariff structure, and even with net metering it still wouldn't be; in fact, it would be worse. Batteries are a less than zero sum game since none of them have 100% round trip efficiency, and the more the grid pays you for your PV production, the less viable they are for daily use.
Building, maintaining, and stabilizing a grid structure is a very expensive proposition, and every customer on the grid contributes to paying for it. There was (and to some extent there still is) a ground swell of resistance to solar here and elsewhere amongst customers who do not have PV systems who say, with some justification, that under net metering a portion of that expense is being shifted onto them, since a portion of the kWh charge for energy is for grid support expenses. AE is, in addition to a utility, a political body, so they must consider these objections.