Physis, not a complete answer, since that would involve system stability theory that is over my head, but something to keep in mind as part of the answer:
For most electrical rotating machines, the difference between a motor and a generator is how the machine is operated, _not_ the machine itself. An induction motor, connected to an 'overhauling load', meaning a mechanical load that tries to push the motor faster than its rated synchronous speed, will operate as a generator.
The large power plants generally use synchronous machines tied to their prime movers. In the steady state, a synchronous machine will always spin at a speed related to the supply frequency. The angle of the rotor relative to the rotating magnetic field determines the torque of the machine. Roughly: if the magnetic field is pulling the rotor around, then the machine operates as a motor, supplying mechanical power to its shaft (and any connected load), and if the rotor magnets are 'pulling' on the rotating magnetic field, then the machine absorbs mechanical power from its shaft (and any connected prime mover), producing electrical power.
So once the power plant is connected to the grid, the grid itself acts to synchronize the generators. Should a particular power plant change power output, then its generator would adjust rotor angle slightly to increase or reduce torque. So there would be a transient difference in generator speed versus grid frequency, but once the two come to equilibrium, they would both again be at the same speed.
When initially connecting power plants to the grid, there can be tremendous transient current flows as the magnetic forces synchronize the rotor to the grid. I don't really know the details of how operators deal with this.
I seem to recall a thread here or on ECN describing how plants get connected to the grid. Below is an interesting description of the grid:
http://www.electrical-contractor.ne...wflat/Forum/1/topic/003211/Number/0/site_id/1
-Jon