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The problem here should be relatively easy to troubleshoot, but you need a reasonable understanding of electrical circuit theory.
For flickering of an incandescent bulb to be detected by an individual you need about at least a 2 V change in the voltage at the bulb. Under signal known exactly conditions it can probably be much less, and if you are not paying attention to the bulb it may be more.
How do you troubleshoot a light flicker problem generated by some load change?
First --- use a fast response min-max meter at the bulb to monitor the change in voltage. Fast response probably means no longer than 1/10 second. Knowing this change in voltage is useful when checking change in voltage at other places in the system.
Also it may be useful to use your own test load, such as a 1500 W heater, about 12 A, to generate a load change.
Second --- you need to understand the system you are working on. This starts with the power company distribution transformer, and an assumption that it is driven by a zero impedance constant voltage primary supply. Which for most purposes is normally a reasonable assumption.
We assume the transformer has a single coil primary, and a center tapped secondary coil. Under no load conditions the two halves should be of almost identical voltage.
Internal impedance of the transformer may be approximated as some in the primary, and the remainder in the secondaries. The primary reflected impedance might be on the order of 1/4 to 1/2 of the impedance of either half of the secondary. This means that a change in load on 1/2 of the secondary produces less voltage change in the other secondary voltage than in the loaded half of the secondary.
Then there is impedance in the service wires from the pole transformer to and thru your meter to the main lugs in your main panel.
In general you can only make current and voltage measurements at and beyond these main lugs.
If all the service wires are of the same size and material, then the voltage drop on any one of these loaded wires is the same for a given amount of load current on 1/2 of the secondary.
If voltage measurements are made at the main input lugs of the main panel, then the only additional voltage drop on the hot wires is from the internal impedance of the power meter. If the measurements are made after breakers, then the hot circuit has the additional drop of the bus and breakers.
Some measurements at my main panel. These measurements were made at outlets near the main panel . Thus, after breakers.
Phase A is the phase being loaded with a 1500 W space heater. Approximate load current 12 A. Voltage changes measured are A to N, B to N, and A to B.
Phase A to Neutral is -1.2 V.
Phase B to Neutral is +0.3 V
Phase A to B is -0.6 V
There is no current change on Phase B, thus the expected rise in voltage resulting from the voltage drop on the Neutral from the Phase A load current on the Neutral conductor. If you do not understand the rise on the unloaded phase, then draw the circuit and study it.
The voltage drop on the hot line of phase A is more like about 1.2 - 0.3 = 0.9 V. This is not too far from the 0.6 V change on the Phase A to B measurement.
Using a 15 W incandescent bulb as a voltage measuring device, flicker detection, I saw no obvious flicker from my 1500 watt load change on the same duplex outlet.
Getting late now. More later.
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