I'm with MTW on this.
You have a significant current imbalance, about 22%. That's going to cause most SSOL relays to trip, because a severe current imbalance will cause extra motor heating even though the current is not exceeding the setting. That's what makes SSOLs better than heater type. So DO NOT "bypass" it! It's likely doing EXACTLY what it needs to do to keep that motor from burning up!
So the issue is, what's causing the current imbalance? Your voltage readings are showing that the current imbalance is not the result of a line voltage imbalance, so you ruled that out.
When the IR guy said he "checked the motor", what does that mean? Megger test? If not, whatever he did was meaningless. If so, was he just checking L-G, not L-L? it could have an insulation breakdown turn-to-turn or phase to phase, but nothing going to ground. If all he did was the basic test of hooking all of the motor leads together to one megger lead and the other to ground, that would not find those other problems.