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Eamp:
As an electrician your training is clearly lacking in providing you with an understanding of electrical circuit theory, and troubleshooting methods.
For most homes the power company will supply three wires from a transformer to your main panel. Two of the wires can be classified as hot as a convenient name, and one as a neutral.
The neutral is earthed at the power company transformer.
These three wires ultimately terminate in your main panel on three buses. There is also a grounding bus in the main panel. This grounding bus is connected to (bonded) the neutral bus, as is the main enclosure. The grounding bus, and thus the neutral, are connected to a grounding electrode. Under normal conditions the difference in voltage between any of the different things wired to the neutral bus (power company ground rod, ground bus, local ground electrode, and main enclosure) should be small under worst case loading of the main panel. Millivolts to several volts. Several volts would be unusual, a 200 A load from neutral to one hot would be unusual.
Without a meter you can use two 15 W incandescent, or larger, bulbs to look for neutral problems. 15 W is easier on the eyes. If you have a high resistance neutral, and load one phase to neutral, then one bulb will get brighter, and the other dimmer. If one bulb remains about constant, and the bulb on the loaded side gets dimmer, then you have a high resistance in the hot supply line on the loaded side.
The two bulb method is useful when you want an easy way to see what is happening, or when you have only one meter. Also simultaneously reading two meters is harder than viewing two adjacent bulbs.
Some of your comments seem to be unrelated to the problem, or seem to be misleading.
I don't have any more time now.
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