Fulthrotl
~Autocorrect is My Worst Enema.~
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thats not nice what if the person that worked for you takes pride in his work and you crushed his pride in a matter of seconds. i wouldnt be too happy with that if that was me
nor would i, but that's the way marc chooses to interact with people.
it obviously works to his satisfaction, or he would do it differently.
the people he interacts with are ok with it, or they would go somewhere
else to play.
what i'm gonna say next is not about marc in any way, but just a general
observation....
since i've been reading posts here, it's interesting to watch the different
personality types interact. the one thing life has taught me is that
somebody behaving in a particular way, either gracious or insulting, has
very little to do with me, and much to do with the person acting out their
own beliefs, and fears. and most people's beliefs ARE their fears, simply put.
it's pretty easy to figure out what's really going on with someone by
how they defend themselves, and most people defend themselves by
attacking someone or something, and projecting their fear outward in
a defense. a defense shows what the weakness is, for if it wasn't weak,
what would you need a defense FOR?
and quietly speaking the truth will usually resolve the problem.
case in point... i was doing project management on a large job about
10 years ago, backing up a GF who was buried in a fast track.
the GC project manager was a less than capable guy who made up for
his inadequacies by screaming at the scheduling meetings. no planning
ability, no workable schedule, no management ability, just screaming at
the various subs... a not very bright, do it hard and stupid sort of guy.
there were probably 30 people in the room, male and female, and the
conduct was deplorable.
after two meetings of this, i had enough of his chrome plated silly noise,
and when he stopped shouting long enough to suck some more air, i
very quietly said "behaving like this will not make your penis larger".
sorta cut right to the chase. the room fell apart in laughter, and when
it finally quieted down, he'd start talking again, and someone would
snicker in the back, and the laughter would start all over again.
he finally ended the meeting, and i never heard him speak like that
again..... of course, it may have been because my GF was told to
never bring me to the meeting again....
randy