And finally, here's my take on the entire matter.
On Monday, I asked the student to bring his test to me and upon which, I gave him credit for his answer. His "thanks", barely audible to myself (at close range) and delivered most insincerely, rang out loudly to my spirit. I guess I had him figured right from the beginning.
If he's watching this forum, here's my best advice... try to build some new bridges. This one's been burnt.
So instead of trying to sit down and talk to this kid you decided to use the chance to see if he would bow down to you for so magnanimously giving him the grade you should have given in the first place?
What were you expecting? You already know the kid has issues. This would have been an opportunity to help him. Instead you thought you would just give in enough so you could watch him fail and then you could be justified in your position that you were "right from the beginning". Was the yelling of obscenities not enough to tell you he has problems? In what world did you expect him to make a 180 degree turn?
Why did you not try to help him instead of setting him up for what you would say was a failure. This was clearly a test he was destined to fail. But did you fail also? What kind of spite does it take to do that? You got your pound of flesh so I hope you feel better but maybe you should think about what you are doing.
I will concede that there may be no amount of counseling that will help this guy but what does not trying say about you? The difference is that you should know better.
I hope you are different than what these few posts indicate but look at how you come across:
...Was I wrong and too critical?
By the way, his final test score was 99%.
The comment about him still making 99% indicates a "who does he think he is after all" or "I'll show this guy a thing or two" attitude. Did you come here seeking advice or vindication? Think back about your frame of mind when you first posted and look at yourself. It would be impossible for us to know.
Perhaps Monday, I should re-inform the class that the best thing I have to offer them after school is over are these...
1. Though I do not hold all the keys to their future, I do hold one... my personal endorsement to their abilities, attitude and attendance.
2. A letter of recommendation that speaks volume about them personally.
So you are teaching a class about their future occupation and the best thing they can take from the class is some endorsement from you that is worth "volumes"? How is that better than what you teach?
I can tell you these endorsements carry little weight unless you are somebody I have complete faith in. They matter a little but I put more stock in my personal interview than I do on what someone I don't know says. Even then, I watch their performance and attitude on the job until I can have faith in them.
Clearly, I knew the individual understood the question and answer and there's no doubt in my mind, he understands the formula. Having said that, I'll re-evaluate the whole scenario on Monday, God willing.
That sounds good. But did you approach it with a genuine attempt at helping the guy or with an attitude that you would throw him a bone and if he was not slobberingly grateful then you were done with him?
Did you feel entitled to some kind of apology? Personally, I think he should give you one for his outburst. You said that you would evaluate the scenario if God was willing. If that is how you feel may you recall
1 Cor 6:7
Look, I'm not saying I would not be peeved either. I'm no better than anybody else and was quite the hot-head in my youth. But at least here we can step back and look at the situation and get a better frame of mind. Use this as an opportunity to look at yourself and maybe do things like we would wish we had done them instead of how we probably would then regret it later.