For whoever needs to know, this is true.
I was part of a 'remodel' project where the home went to 2000 sqft, all electric, EV charger etc, basically the same stuff as the OP just 1/4 to 1/3 as much of it. I had to downsize the main breaker from 200A to 150A and did a 220.82 load calc to verify. All good. After the project was over, the customer had an additional 70A spa panel put in. (I found out because it overloaded the battery backup, but I digress...) My load calc may no longer be valid, but I still have access to their consumption data. The most they use (highest average over a 15min interval) is a bit over 14kW, which is to say ... 60A.