Apologies, I did not mean I was trying to use a red on a fixture wire and a number 14, rather I used all of the yellows and tans in the bag, all of which failed. My intended implication was that I could see ripping the coil out of a wire nut if I was trying to twist five number 12 together, which I believe is the maximum allowed under a red 3M wire nut... Ripping out the coil twisting in an 18 gauge fixture wire to a piece of number 14... I do not have that kind of hand strength... The wire nuts were garbage.
I agree with you 100% in that I try to match the wire nuts to the application, and not have them at the minimum or maximum recommended ranges of number and sizes of conductor.